6 secrets of traveling together: How to avoid a fight on the road
According to statistics, 92% of couples who travel together seriously quarrel in the first weeks of joint vacations. Stormy scenes can poison any vacation, we all agree on that. And they look absurd, too. I offer you simple tips on how to avoid a fight on the road.
How to avoid a fight on the road
Traveling with your partner can be a hassle. I always say that living with someone is difficult but traveling with some is even a bigger challenge.
Hopefully, the following 6 things will help you not to kill each other on your next trip 😀
1. Give freedom to each other
The practice of a two-week stay in one room with a girlfriend shows that separation is not the most difficult test for happy couples. It’s harder to love, sharing one bed, bedside table, and laptop. You are unlikely to like side effects of the “let’s travel together round-the-clock”. And although we do dramatize a little, the essence is clear: it can be really difficult to be close to one (even adored by you) person 24/7, especially if you are one of those who needs personal space. A win-win solution doesn’t exist: you either accept and start loving this “presence effect” or draw conclusions and buy an individual tour.
2. Don’t expect a lot
Someone dreams to sleep, and someone wants to arrange a marathon to the clubs. And it is impossible to guess in advance what your companion prefers. Don’t sacrifice your own desires, indulging your partner in everything. Agree to some consensus. For example, your loved one can’t imagine a life without hanging out with friends. As a compromise, you can alternate such leisure with secluded romantic evenings. And you can invite your friends to travel and have fun with a big company. The main thing, don’t arrange total isolation!
*On purpose I don’t use a photo of me with a guy but an unknown couple. Hope you understand.
3. Deal with money matters
We live in a world of victorious emancipation and bear responsibility for ourselves (including material ones), even when it comes to women dating. Suppose that you sponsored your joint trip, but don’t be too keen on playing the scene of “an oligarch with a girlfriend on vacation.” Or it is even better to go on a trip with shared money. When your budget has not yet reached the “total” status, everyone’s contribution should be discussed in advance.
4. Be ready for disappointments
It is possible that both of you are waiting for many discoveries, and not just geographical ones. A real revelation can be a simple truth: nothing human is alien to you or your companion. A man, as a rule, guesses about the earthly origin of a lady of his heart, even if she manages not to approach the toilet in his presence, eat sunlight, and convincingly depict the fairy. Some people manage to maintain this illusion for several years of living together, but when you travel together, even the most magical princess with perfect styling can turn into an ordinary resort girl with sand in her hair.
5. Accept bad habits
In a word, even if you are together not the first year, be prepared for the fact that during a joint holiday you will remain alone not only with each other but also with each other’s shortcomings, strangeness, and bad habits. The main thing is not to forget that each of us has own ideas about “good” and “bad” despite the existence of official codes of etiquette, and they often don’t coincide. What someone thinks to be perfectly normal, can confuse you just because you are different. Couples that travel together should always remember it.
6. Foresee unexpected circumstances
Life shows: when people travel together, force majeure can arise even in the most thoughtful trips. Documents are stolen, a receptionist doesn’t pick up the phone, your luggage is lost, and the return flight is delayed for a week… It is important that at least one of you keeps cool and starts taking decisive action while the second one panics. And, by the way, the role of the savior doesn’t always apply to men. Sometimes even the most persistent man and yesterday’s defender can give up. If this happens, don’t let this be a reason for disappointment.
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Kristen Sarah ✈ (@HTGlobe)
Siya and I have had this conversation many times but, thankfully, we don’t have much trouble with this. We’re both really independent though and make sure to take time to ourselves.
That’s awesome if you do tend to spend time also on your own, it definitely helps 🙂