My ideal man and his 55 things (21 – 55)
In the previous post I described a little bit why I am still single and what this topic has to do with my travel lifestyle. But I only stated 20 points out of 55 my ideal man should be. I bet you are all waiting for the other 35 points. So here you go straight away.
21. responsible – if I cannot count on you, why do I need you then? A vibrator will do its job better and outside bed it would be just the same thing I could not rely on, hence useless.
22. if you promise something, keep your word – it comes together with the previous point. Just do what you said you would and do not say one thing and do another. Unless it is much better :)
23. supportive – if I’m doing a good thing, just support me. It is the easiest thing to do but yet so not common.
24. advise me – if I ask you for an advice, don’t be like yeah, whatever, just say your opinion, no matter how bad or silly it could seem. I wouldn’t ask you if I didn’t want to hear it.
25. communicative – I like to talk usually (even though I am pretty shy) so if the guy is quiet all the time, what should I do with him then? Just speak to me.
26. talk about yourself – I am really interested in your life, what you do, what feelings you have, etc. so just share it all with me, that simple. Any silly thing is better than nothing.
27. be damn good in the kitchen – I don’t like cooking but as I so love eating, who else should prepare food if not you? Even though … most of my time I am raw vegan so no need to really cook :D
28. earn money – being rich is not one of the points, even though it would be logically better, I just want to say the guy has to know how to earn money. And preferably not working his ass off 20 hours per day.
29. have a car/motorbike – I have always been in love with all the big machines, from great cars, to motorbikes and airplanes. Don’t get me wrong, a Boeing doesn’t have to be parked in your backyard, but if you have a motorbike or a sports car/jeep, you just simply rank higher in my eyes. A motorbike and sexy forearms, oh yes! But skip this point if you are traveling, it doesn’t really matter then (unless you want to travel with me on the bike).
a motorbike I love
30. no mummy’s boy – I so hate this! Of course you have to love your mum, but discuss with her every topic you should better speak about with me, or even listening to her instead of me? No, thank you!
31. accommodation – not very important, but I do enjoy having a place for just you and me, without another 3 flatmates staring at us all the time. Skip this point though, when traveling.
32. no half-relationships still going on – all the ex girlfriends/wives/lovers must be 100% ex, completely in the past.
33. non-smoker – I have never tried smoking in my life and I’m not planning to do so. I just hate smoke and the taste of it in your mouth so non-smokers, come closer!
34. not to be an alcoholic – even though I stopped drinking alcohol in 2009, it doesn’t mean you have to be the same. But I do prefer if you don’t get drunk every night!
35. on time – I really dislike waiting, so if you say you will come at 9 pm, do not leave me waiting until 9.30 pm when you will only inform me that you are actually coming after 10 pm. I would be ready for some boxing then! And now I really do not mean in the mud with another girl :P
36. not boring – listening to the same shit or silence over again or keep on doing the same thing every day? Really not for me. If I like to watch movies, do not take it that we have to watch them every single day. Change a bit. No boredom works out for me. Not even a day of it.
37. active – a passive person sitting in front of the TV 15 hours per day is just someone I could not stand. Be active a little bit, go out, do different things, have hobbies. Just enjoy life in more ways. If I wanted a sluggish guy, I would just stay with a snail!
38. respectful – respect women in general. And animals, too. No kicking into cats at the street, please, or I kick you!
39. love children – children are of the best in this world. The big part of my heart belong to them, even to the random children at the street. I just love them. And you have to, too.
40. like music – I somehow cannot live without music, not even for a day, if I do not listen to anything, I hum or sing. Do not show me no interest in music. It is just the weirdest thing ever if somone does not like at least one kind of music.
41. like my family – yes, I know, my family is weird but I so love them like nothing else in this world, so at least be respectful and try to understand them. Try.
42. like my friends – or at least do not say anything bad about them in front of me. You don’t have to have the same friends, but just speaking bad about every single male friend I have is just silly and too much.
43. be able to live abroad – as my lifestyle is a bit nomad, my guy just has to be willing to move to a different country with me. No long distance relationships with me. So this is the only way, unfortunately!
44. react to my calls and messages – 100 % logical! Answer me, babe! I just call to say I love you … I just call to say how much I care …
45. unique – do not wear the same clothes, shoes nor the same hair style like everyone else does. Just have your own style and do not go and buy an Angry Birds shirt just because it is the coolest now.
46. invite me somewhere – from time to time. Let’s do some interesting stuff.
47. careful – in the sense of taking care of me, be attentive, give me a small cute silly present not only once a year when I tell you ahead it’s my birthday. And all the massages are more than welcome :)
48. not arrogant, nor aggressive – it is just not cool at all. There are better ways to be interesting.
49. do some sport – just show me the only movement you do is not to get up from the couch to take the beer from the fridge but you can manage more. Then a bit of muscles sell :)
50. smell nice – I love spicy perfumes, but any nice smell is better than none.
51. bathroom time – do not spend hours getting ready before we go out. If I can take a shower, choose a dress, do my hair and my make-up in 10 minutes, you should do so in 5.
52. not too ironic – I do enjoy teasing and having fun, even when I’m the one to have the laugh at, but when it’s too much, it is just too much.
53. spontaneous – from time to time just do something unexpected. Touch my leg under the table with plenty of people, kiss me on the cheek in front of your dad, say a compliment when having a beer with your best male friends, come with a great idea … there are just so many ways to do it.
54. show your love and interest – I am used to listen to nice things from all my Spanish and Latino friends, so if they can be extremely nice to me only being friends, you should be even nicer.
55. not too messy – I really do not wish to find your dirty socks and pants all over the house.
Now, when I wrote it all down and showed to the whole world, there are three more things I would like to add.
First, I could continue with more things but I just stopped writing them down after the 55 points before 2012 as already now with such a long list it is almost impossible to find a boyfriend.
Second, I do love impossible things and show the world that impossible can become possible. So… hope dies last.
And last, if there was my ideal guy somewhere in the world who would have all the 55 things but would not truly love me… then it could still be mission impossible…
By the way, it was my birthday on the day I published this list but so far my birthday present is still somewhere out hiding :D
Aw, and if you think I am way demanding, then check out 55 reasons why to date me :D To find out more about me, read the truth about Crazy sexy fun traveler ;)
Arianwen
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I’m so with you on your point about the hair! I’m not too picky with appearance, but that’s a bit of a deal breaker for me!
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Haha that is so funny about the hair thing :)
sachin pushkarna
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interesting!!!!
Aleks
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Comment@ Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler:
That’s fine cause I feel the same way about girls…and I had a Czech girlfriend who had a great one…so I had first hand experience :).. And when we went to Prague she said my eyes would pop…she was right.
I wonder if Bratislava is the same….looks like you might have a sweet one :)
Xx
Aleks...London
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What !
I thought I would read point 2. He must have a great ass!
Every cute Czech/Slovak …in fact all EE girls I met said that ! :)
Creative blog…glad to see you’re doing everything you want to do in life!
Xx
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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haha you know us well, then :) A nice butt is a key ;)
Erik
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Whahaha had so much fun reading this post :-P Well I don’t drink or smoke as well… Don’t have a MOTORbike, sorry… Got a few bikes though… Can make the sound like one… ;-) My car isn’t a sportscar but still goes fast enough I think… :-P But because I’m traveling the world even more I’ll sell it soon anyway :-) About the meat… Don’t gonna give that up… can go without for weeks but sometimes I have a craving for a good piece of meat… But I can cook it for myself and keep it of your plate no worries there :-P Point 17 I don’t know, that’s something you have to find out I guess ;-) About the bathroomtime… I’l take longer in the bathroom but than again you would too because it’s a nice place to spent time together… wet and wild… :-) Would love to read more about you and will take the time to follow you a bit more :-) Hugz! :-D
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Hahahaha Erik, I think you made me laugh even more with your comment than I made you with my article :D
willy
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Late to the thread, enjoyed the read, nothing too weird in my opinion. I’d bet most people have close to the same list, but most people also “settle” for someone less “perfect”. I think I have 53.5 points (I speak 2 languages in addition to my native English—but neither are Spanish!), but the 1 point I don’t have is perhaps the most important for someone like yourself. I’m not a raw-food vegan, not even vegetarian (though I eat largely vegetables). Also, I’m too old for you.
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Nice comment, Willy :) No one ever gave me 53.5 points yet :D But raw vegan is a very important one for me.
Crazy sexy fun traveler
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Comment@ Pablo:
Haha Pablo, very funny :D
Pablo
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Sorry, i am taken.
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Comment@ Bear Palomo:
Gotta agree, Bear, you said it in a nice way ;)
Bear Palomo
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I think the list is a good idea. I mean, I don’t have one, I don’t think I need one, but it is a good idea and I can tell you why. Precisely as you say, when you meet someone and the chemistry is there, the idea of a list goes out the window. It is good she has the list at that time because her perspective is skewed by pheromones, hormones and basically, “blinded by love”. At that point if she takes out the list and realizes, “Wait, he is not nice to children or animals, doesn’t have a motorcycle, doesn’t exercise, isn’t a gentleman, isn’t very honest…&c.” then she will know it might be fun right now but in the future this guy doesn’t have what it takes to last in a relationship with her.
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Comment@ Abuhmaid:
Haha that’s what you think! I would have to count the points :P But thanks for the compliment about my trips ;)
Abuhmaid
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Hehe after reading your list of 55 features of your ideal man i can say i am 90% of that : p would that be adequate :). I love travels as well and i am impressed with ur trips :) well done
crazy sexy fun traveler
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Comment@ Gos:
I did need the list when that guy appeared as it made me realize that he has it all, he is the one and that I should try hard not to lose him ;)
Gos
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Creating a list doesn’t work. You know why? Because as soon as you meet someone you really connect with, someone you truly cherish. The list totally goes out the window.
It’s when you don’t have to a look at list, that’s the moment you know when you’ve found someone special. It’s for that person you’d be willing to give up travel, for that person you’d be willing to move to another country.
Cherish the list, but when that right person comes along…I’m certain you won’t even need it.
Gos
crazy sexy fun traveler
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Comment@ Dorli:
Thanks Dorli, I found my superman already :) Hope u will too!
Dorli
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I mean I can see Alex matching this points. Comment@ Dorli:
Dorli
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I really do like your list and I cant see Alex matching the points (dont know about No17) and I really hope hope u’ll enjoy the time in DC and I hope u found the love of your life and he hopefully will make u happy. All the best from germany … an unknown traveller still on the lookout for love as all we traveller are!
crazy sexy fun traveler
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Comment@ Raf Kiss:
I totally get you with this one, Raf! Yes, in the end you just do what you feel like doing not that I do care that much about this list. I wrote it more to get over one guy and started writing down the things he didn’t have haha.
Raf Kiss
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I made a list too at one point in a relationship that eventually ended. The difference was that I made a list of the things I was looking for in a relationship, rather than in the person… It’s a good way to set your boundaries, but in the end it comes down to what you feel inside. I wish you luck in your quest for the holy grail :)
crazy sexy fun traveler
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Comment@ Fidel:
Thank you for such a huge compliment, Fidel :)