Our romantic travel love story
Strong personalities learn to look for what they really want in life and not to set up for less. I got to that level a couple of years ago and I decided to always follow my dreams. Right, it is one of the biggest cliches ever, I am aware of it, but it have changed my life for better and that’s what matters.
When you look at this travel blog, you must see that I definitely follow my travel dreams. But that is not the only important thing in my life. To be honest, I had been always in a relationship since my 16 until my 23 years, I was so used to have a boyfriend all the time that back then I couldn’t even imagine being single.
Then something changed.
My brother committed suicide at that time and my then-boyfriend just didn’t want to understand my sadness and depression. One day he said that I behaved as if something bad happened (literally his words) and that was it for me. I sent him to hell and started writing now famous list of 55 things of my ideal man – 1 to 20 things and the other part 21 to 55 things, just to get over the break up easier.
The list helped me realize I didn’t just want to be with a guy if already since the beginning I knew it was not going to last for long.
So each time I met a guy, I checked my list and if the guy didn’t have at least 35 points out of 55, I didn’t bother. And to tell you the truth, it was one of the reasons why I started traveling around the world and not just going on holidays once a year like most people do.
Somehow, I just felt I was missing something important in my life (LOVE?) and as I didn’t have it, it had to be replaced with more traveling. And I have to say, I was not really looking for anyone while traveling. And I haven’t even met anyone that would fit the description of my ideal man. Not that I ever thought there was someone so perfect!
Then after 3 years without a proper relationship, all of a sudden there was just one guy I kind of liked.
In April I wrote a story about how it ended, about how my last platonic love made me angry. Most of you have read it already. The point is that after that happened, I was really angry for a few days and I decided not to care about guys any more. Or let’s say, care even less.
It made me a bit sad because it was when all of a sudden I remembered that I always wanted to be with love of my life at 27 and get married at 28. And it was 2012, I was 27 and I was still single. How the heck could I ever get married within a few months not having even met up THE ONE? It left me wondering…
It all happened in Bolivia when the things went wrong and I was even very sick. So I changed my plans and instead of visiting my dream country Peru, I went to Costa Rica to spend some time at the Caribbean beaches and then I treated myself to all inclusive holidays in the North Pacific Guanacaste coast. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made while traveling. It was not just to overcome all the situations, but to swallow the idea that one of my biggest dreams was NOT going to happen and I couldn’t do much about it.
Surprisingly, my sickness disappeared as soon as I came to Costa Rica and so did my bad mood. The lovely staff, swimming every day and great food in my all inclusive hotel were the reasons of my amazing mood. I was so happy there and completely forgot about my 27 – 28 frustration of not being with my ideal man.
But you know what they say …
When you stop looking for love, it finds you.
It was on the 18th of May 2012 when I just came back from breakfast, still during my all inclusive holidays, I went online and found that cute message in inbox of my personal facebook. It was from an American guy called Alexander (Alex – what a coincidence, people call me Alex too!) He said I was like a female version of him which caught my attention so I answered him back. It turned out he was a friend of my fellow travel bloggers.
The following day I was just relaxing in my room and wanted to know more about this guy! Curious, I went through his facebook profile and his photos and liked some of them. The same day, in the afternoon, he came online and was thankful for all the likes 😀
We spent 3 hours talking that day on facebook. The next 2 days we both realized we liked each other more every minute. And more than usual. It was even scary! I went back to 55 things of my ideal man and I couldn’t believe my eyes! That guy I spent only 3 days talking to online, had more points of my list than any other guy I have ever met in my life!
On the 22nd May, just 5 days after Alex sent me the first message on facebook, we both realized we had to meet in person. It was now or never! So Alex cancelled his holidays to Nicaragua and Honduras and bought a ticket to Europe to see me where I was just headed off to. His holidays actually started 2 days after I left Costa Rica, just when I got home to Slovakia.
Yes, unbelievable! At least I could not believe it! Our romantic travel love story was like a movie!
After 10 days of talking online, Alex flew through the Atlantic just to see me. Yes, after just 10 days of chatting we met in person for the first time and after another 3 days, we knew we were in love with each other. He was made for me, and I was made for him, we were sure about it! There were so many, actually 69 weird things we had in common, apart from all the 55 things my ideal man has to have (Alex SEEMED to have them all)! And both of us had never spoken about family, marriage and kids with someone else before until we met each other, so it looked like it meant something, right?
But then my first US trip came … and I went to visit Alex there. But it actually ended up with our break up and I was celebrating Independence day – July 4 as my independence from my boyfriend.
No, nothing is perfect, nor any guy, nor any relationship. You know what they say in the movies – what is too good to be true, it really is too good to be true. And this was our case!
As before our break up we launched general travel blog We Travel Around the World where we wanted to write about our romance, adventures around the world and travel blogging love story, I had to transform the blog into another photo and interview blog… In case you were wondering why I have another blog 🙂
So yes, you hear me, I am single again… your solo female traveler again. And since that disappointment I keep reminding myself every day why travel is better than sex. It is obvious now that this dream – getting married to a great guy when I am 28 – won’t happen. And I am trying hard to get it into my head.