5 things you have to know about German guys
I hear it over and over again. Women often have no idea what to know about German guys. So keep reading to find out the most important things.
Ok ladies, here are some tips you must bear in mind in case you are interested in any German guy. Don’t get desperate if you feel they pay no attention to you. It seems to be very normal…
5 things you have to know about German guys:
1. They are usually responsible. Of course I’m generalizing in all of these points. But every generalization is partly true. They like having fun, but only when it’s appropriate. If you come from Latin lands and shout when talking, you’ll scare him. If you are laughing all the time, they’ll think you don’t take anything seriously.
2. You’ll notice that, in a club or a disco, very few of German guys come to you and flirt. This is because they like being approached by the girl. No, seriously! Unless the girl is too aggressive. Be careful and play it nice!
3. Notice that German men have a hard time flirting too because ”apparently” some German women are very mean. They are prone to reject any guy that hits on them and that’s also why the German guys are so shy.
But also some girls don’t like their male friends to flirt around with others and much less if you are a foreigner traveler. You’ll have to work hard! Try to catch him far from the group, when going to the toilet, for example.
with a German guy in Teotihuacan
4. If you are a stranger, it will be more difficult to be approached by a German guy. This is due to their shyness, not any other reason they do not approach strangers because they feel much more comfortable with their female friends from the kindergarten. But that doesn’t mean they are not interested.
5. In Germany, a man can be passionately in love with you for years and you would not have any idea. (I mean is that really so normal?)
So, here’s the thing.
Let’s be honest.
Do NOT expect a spontaneous crazy night with a German – remember I am generalizing, you can always find the exception.
But if you are really interested in one of these guys, try to be his friend first, meet several times for a cup of tea or a movie, and stir up his interest until he can’t help but succumb to your charms…
TIP 1: More information about my ultimate guide to flirting on the road or even sex when traveling can be found here.
TIP 2: If you want to learn from my mistakes, read about the one thing I’ve learned from my relationships with guys.
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Tina
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Hi, can someone help me? I work as a front desk and this german guy came for business purposes for a long stay which is nearly over in 3 days. Two weeks ago, while wanting to pay his bill he called me “sweetheart” and since that day i cannot stop thinking about him. He’s stuck in my head. The next day until today, we make eye contact all the time, his eyes get sparkled and my head feels on clouds. I added him on linked-in ( i know , not the best social media) but this is the only place i could find his name written like on his ID. I made the first move by sending him a message and we have talked a few times by now and his messages are always long and detailed about simple things. I tried to flirt twice but he doesn’t flirt back therefore i stopped and talk to him like normal to make him feel much more comfortable. He is funny. The thing is when he come for breakfast in the morning, we both are very shy, we only manage to say “Goodmorning, hi, hello and how are you” by still keeping the eye contact and that’s it. My heart beats so fast that i stop talking. After breakfast he always wishes me to have a nice day and winks at me while still making eye contact.
I feel that the connection is here but don’t know if im overthinking or whatever. I guess the “sweetheart” was because he had 2 beers and a wine i really don’t know if he feels something.
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Hey Tina, it’s realy difficult to know what’s going on between you two, especially what he’s thinking. I think he would have done or told you something already, if he really wanted so. Only he knows how he means what he tells you. But good luck!
Lisa
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Hi, I hope you have time for one more question. I met a German man a year ago. We met one week, then another, in a professional setting. We spent a month together last year, not as a couple, but getting to know one another through daily talks, an occasional walk, and common interests. He’s extremely intelligent and a very gentle person. He always smiles at me and if I’m not around, asks where I’m at. He hugs me when we say goodbye and has put his hand on my bottom. (It was most welcome there, btw.) When he hugs me now, he runs his hand down my side and over my hip. He sometimes looks at me like he wants to kiss me, but I’m not sure. Otherwise, he’s extremely chivalrous. He’s very sweet and soft-spoken. He’s very professional and aloof with everyone else. He makes it a point to talk to me and ask me about myself and how I’m doing. Is that real attraction, or am I just imagining it? (I’ve not had very much relationship experience, so I’m a little confused.) I really like him and I hope that he likes me back. Would approaching him about a date be a good idea?
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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You described him in a very nice way :) If I were you, I’d ask him directly… until then you will never know what’s going on in his head :/
Clarice
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I would not expect a post like this to be so popular! Well, German men seem to be quite interesting.
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Thanks! I am surprised to see all these comments and views, here, too!
Jess
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This article is interesting. There is a man around my age who always says hello to me when i see him at a local shop. He works there and whenever he sees me arrive he comes out of his office, and comes somewhere near me and says hello, or if he is further away in conversation with someone else he tries to catch my eye. The other day he said hello to me two times (each time he was with an elderly customer though). He definitely doesn’t say hello to everyone, does not even give my friend recognition. This has gone on for quite a while. I would love to talk to him because i feel like there might be something there but i am not sure…
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Well, what 1 hello can do, right? Just go and talk to him :) You never know…
CrazyConfused
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Honestly German guys just confuse me, I am Mexican and so have many Mexican friends and I could always tell when one liked me but with the the two German guys I’ve known i keep getting mixed messages, he’ll be all sweet and huggy and all smiles one minute and then ignores me the next( I know for a fact he likes me because his sister ,my bff told me) honestly I’ve given up, I not even gonna try to find out. He’s an amazing friend, funny, sweet, considerate and such a gentleman both of them so am cool with them just being my friends ?♀️
MB
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I met my German friend through a pen pal app. We have been sharing messages and photos since 7 months. He is nice. He said he wants to write real letters. I was surprised. Even he is young. With all easy accesses, who wants to write letters? He asked about that I said okay. He is a kind of different person. He would like to meet. We are friends. But I am bit confused because I haven’t closely related with a German guy before.
Jaqueline
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I met the German Exception in some points! I was on holiday when I met him, our first approach was by Tinder then he invited me to a drink. He was definitely funny, made me laugh A LOT lol, he wasn’t shy at all, he knows how to flirt maybe because he’s living in the U.K… the only thing I didn’t like is the fact that he replies texts really late like days pass by, I don’t have self motivation enough to keep in touch with him hahaha but also I don’t know if that’s a normal German behaviour.
Miss Ana
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Hi, I also matched a german guy from tinder while I was on a vacation in Germany that time. He invited me over dinner but we really did not meet up for some reasons I was kinda bit scared to ask my aunt out if I can go and meet someone (a stranger). But we exchanged whatsapp and now im back in Dubai but we still messaging and we plan to make trip neaxt year, he is sweet and funny too but I really dont know what his intentions are. If he is just being friendly or he likes me
Marty
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As a German guy, it is true – I am a bit shy. Not as much now that I am older and have dated a number of women. But, we Germans are good at fixing things – yes. Smart – yes. Hard working – yes. Responsible – yes. Socializing and having fun – it’s not our strong point. I love to have fun, but I’m not good at leading the fun department, know what I mean?
Alexandra Kovacova
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Hey Marty, thanks for your honest opinion :)
Christine
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Im an asian girl, I met my boyfriend in a online dating He is 23 and im 24 and he decided to come and meet me in Philippines to travel and visit beautiful places. I agree of the shy part , when I met him in the airport I was the one who approached him first and hug him and he felt awkward the first day. As days goes by, I told him about my feelings for him and maybe we could take another level and he was like amused or felt happy or what haha then the following morning He called me baby and treated me a very special girl compared to the past days . He introduce me to his friends online as we are still on the road travelling . Its been 4 months he left back to Germany and we keeo in touch to each other video calling, whatsapp messenger every single time when the other one is online and now he is planning to get me a visa and wanted to come back to stay longer like 3-6months. Lucky ? Absolutely yes, He is a good man and we like each others company. Prost!
Zern
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Hi,
Thank you for sharing your story here,i actually reading about the germany guy,i have also communicated with the german guy.
Claribel
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I met a German Guy last December 2015 in Hong Kong, we have dated like thrice before I left as I needed to go back here in Dubai and after a week, he left HK to go back to Germany. We were both on holiday last December. I agree with what you said that Germans are shy, as I can remember I was the one who made the first move just so we can have conversation. That wasn’t really unplanned though lol, during our conversation he mentioned he went to Dubai twice already and that’s the time our convo became interesting. When I came back here in Dubai, thought we will not talk to each other anymore as I am far away from him. But then he still kept in touch, everyday we exchange messages and skype most of the time. Fortunately, I got a visa to go to Netherlands and so we decided to see each other again since I can just take bus to go to Germany. I stayed in his place, we went to Paris, and he introduced me to his friends and family. I felt so special and felt like a princess. It was so like a dream to me! Now I am back again here in Dubai and everyday I miss him. He says “I miss and love you” but then he doesn’t want to define our relationship. And he will just text me after work. Do Germans not really into texting? I can’t really tell if he really loves me. :/
Ana
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it is not uncommon for German men to introduce gfs to their families even if they are not serious. Also, when they ar working, that is their only focus. The real test is if you ar einvited to Christmas because that is a very special holiday.
Loki
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Since 2014, I have been in love with one German guy, 17 years older than me. I’m Asian and we are colleagues. To be honest, we were in a relationship for one month In 2014. I didnt do any sport in my life but since he’s a runner, in order to be with him, I train for run and now he takes me wherever he goes for marathon. We have coffee together every morning. But I do not see any hope to have way back into love. I love him till now and I would love to be his girl again. :(
dyn
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my boyfriend is germany, he was so good when we met each other, but why when we in different city he not everyday text me? is it like tht a german guy? its been a week he didn’t text me.
tammy green
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well with a german guy he is so sweet to me and when he has to go away he is always calling or texting me we are so much in love he is a great guy.
Skeet755
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I have been seeing/dating a German man for almost 18 months now. I really like him and he always tells me he likes me alot. We enjoy each others company and always have a good time. Sometimes I get mixed signals, like sending a week together on vacation and many weekends. I have more feelings for him than I think he does for me. Not really sure?? Which bums me out sometimes. So I’m just enjoying my time with him and hoping it continues for a a very long time. Any suggestions on German men and relationships?
Nya
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I met a German guy at work, I mean he was my superior, but it didn’t really matter, we became really close friends. I developed a crush for him, and I could feel it was mutual. Except that he wanted to remain friends. Now I work in another place and we are still in touch, and he admitted being attracted but as we worked together it was a little hard. So yes I absolutely agree with the shy part. Let’s see how things go as we now live in different cities